An image keeps appearing in my head
It haunts me as I lie awake
Something perhaps I've shouldn't have seen
It has brought back bitter memories
An image, A poem and pain
Lies, Deceit, Used, Abused, Thrown Away.
I admit I am afraid of
Her appearing in my life again
Brushing wishful thinking and dreams aside
It could never be the same
My idealistic love now long dead
Necromancy might not work on it.
A poem emailed a year ago
It wrote our end and hers
But still it hurts to see
Her demise over and over again
Albeit different from as foretold
By the hands of another man
Haunted by dreams to return again
To where that imaginary line lays
In the rainy dark lonely night
Where no one can see me
As stars and clouds pass overhead
I watch her from far away
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Bad Luck
I admit when I just found out about it, a cacophony of cackles, laughter and sniggers ensured. Alas I couldn't help myself, one can hardly blame me for my lack of sympathy but for the first time in a long time, I visited her blog to find out what happened.
Am I surprised she's going thru a cycle? I'm afraid not. We cannot change the past, but we can decide our future. Its the choices we make that shape who we are and where we go from here.
Is she a bad person? Maybe. Does she deserve what she is going thru now? Definitely. After all, She was a real female dog to me. But if you consider the fact that I was very much attracted to her, it just points out that it doesn't make me any better than her. Y'know, generally animals keep things in the family, in this case; it limits things to the canine family.
I've learnt my lessons, that certain emotional cripples are beyond rescue or hope. No matter how hard you attempt to heal or help the person thru it, personal experience suggests that invariably the next person who comes along generally pays for the shit, someone else did to her.
Should've read the sign at the gate: "Lasciate ogne speranza, voi ch'intrate" "Abandon all hope, ye who enter here"
Interesting enough, thru my recovery process, I somehow managed to have a thing for another canine. Yes yes, I somehow have this thing for intelligent yet emotionally crippled women. But this time, when the girl screwed me just one time, I cut her off. A comedy ensured, "I thought we were friends" popped up, right after 2 weeks of me ignoring the individual, because she accused me of just wanting to sleep with her, while it was clear she was holding on to and shagging another guy who made it clear to her, he does not want a proper relationship with her.
Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty open about sex. I can talk about it with my female friends without having any designs on them. I personally don't get why people have to be so closeted about it, which is why I enjoy misconstruing other people's words into a sexual innuendos to tease them. The look on people's faces when an innocent remark becomes something sexual, is just priceless.
I just enjoy spending time with the people I'm fond of. As for physical intimacy, its nice but by no means mandatory. After all a woman's body is a temple, I'm a pretty devoted priest, I make love, I get off on getting my partner off. But still, just because someone makes my dick swell, doesn't mean I want them to be a part of my life, just means Mr Incredible wants to do the "dating". I do not allow the shortest appendage on my body, to choose who I enjoy spending time with.
Back on track, was I surprised that he managed to screw up things for her again? NOPE. Perhaps the things she love about him, isn't what make out for a long term and meaningful relationship, much less marriage. She does have a knack for choosing the one's who eventually screw her over big time, a few times and then the next one who fell deeply in love with her like I did, is gona get screwed just like I did. She is in LIMBO, an endless cycle.
I guess for me, I've gone thru the stage. Some people and myself included, need to get over our infantile taste in the opposite sex.
For me, physical appearance holds little to no importance, I like intelligent women but just because they are intelligent doesn't mean they cant be a biatch.
For a lot of women I know, they would rather choose fun, uncertainty, excitement and the occasional bruised ego, than to choose the person who is genuine towards them. Interesting enough, somehow a guy who is married or has a girlfriend already is often seen as desirable, apparently because since some woman already wants him, he must be good.
There are some who see it as it is and do not have undue expectations of them. Everyone wants to date someone like James Bond once in their life, but the smart ones do know he's not someone they want to marry.
And of course, there are the ones who are not able to see it and continue the cycle over and over again. I mean come on, bad guys are like sour milk in the fridge, just because you go back to taste it everyday, doesn't mean it will taste any better. In fact, most men become worse after they get married.
"Bad things don't happen to you because you have bad luck. Bad things happen to you because you're a dumb ass!"
I know because I've been there, though it is true that I may never truly know how you feel. Looking at it objectively, If me going thru my personal trials and tribulations means I know how you feel. I suppose when my dick swells, I would know how it feels like to have a clit.
Its not how you feel or what happened. Giving yourself excuses to justify yourself is meaningless. Its how you deal with it which eventually matters the most. The question here is: how many times its gona take for you to be the dumbass, before you learn your lesson.
Am I surprised she's going thru a cycle? I'm afraid not. We cannot change the past, but we can decide our future. Its the choices we make that shape who we are and where we go from here.
Is she a bad person? Maybe. Does she deserve what she is going thru now? Definitely. After all, She was a real female dog to me. But if you consider the fact that I was very much attracted to her, it just points out that it doesn't make me any better than her. Y'know, generally animals keep things in the family, in this case; it limits things to the canine family.
I've learnt my lessons, that certain emotional cripples are beyond rescue or hope. No matter how hard you attempt to heal or help the person thru it, personal experience suggests that invariably the next person who comes along generally pays for the shit, someone else did to her.
Should've read the sign at the gate: "Lasciate ogne speranza, voi ch'intrate" "Abandon all hope, ye who enter here"
Interesting enough, thru my recovery process, I somehow managed to have a thing for another canine. Yes yes, I somehow have this thing for intelligent yet emotionally crippled women. But this time, when the girl screwed me just one time, I cut her off. A comedy ensured, "I thought we were friends" popped up, right after 2 weeks of me ignoring the individual, because she accused me of just wanting to sleep with her, while it was clear she was holding on to and shagging another guy who made it clear to her, he does not want a proper relationship with her.
Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty open about sex. I can talk about it with my female friends without having any designs on them. I personally don't get why people have to be so closeted about it, which is why I enjoy misconstruing other people's words into a sexual innuendos to tease them. The look on people's faces when an innocent remark becomes something sexual, is just priceless.
I just enjoy spending time with the people I'm fond of. As for physical intimacy, its nice but by no means mandatory. After all a woman's body is a temple, I'm a pretty devoted priest, I make love, I get off on getting my partner off. But still, just because someone makes my dick swell, doesn't mean I want them to be a part of my life, just means Mr Incredible wants to do the "dating". I do not allow the shortest appendage on my body, to choose who I enjoy spending time with.
Back on track, was I surprised that he managed to screw up things for her again? NOPE. Perhaps the things she love about him, isn't what make out for a long term and meaningful relationship, much less marriage. She does have a knack for choosing the one's who eventually screw her over big time, a few times and then the next one who fell deeply in love with her like I did, is gona get screwed just like I did. She is in LIMBO, an endless cycle.
I guess for me, I've gone thru the stage. Some people and myself included, need to get over our infantile taste in the opposite sex.
For me, physical appearance holds little to no importance, I like intelligent women but just because they are intelligent doesn't mean they cant be a biatch.
For a lot of women I know, they would rather choose fun, uncertainty, excitement and the occasional bruised ego, than to choose the person who is genuine towards them. Interesting enough, somehow a guy who is married or has a girlfriend already is often seen as desirable, apparently because since some woman already wants him, he must be good.
There are some who see it as it is and do not have undue expectations of them. Everyone wants to date someone like James Bond once in their life, but the smart ones do know he's not someone they want to marry.
And of course, there are the ones who are not able to see it and continue the cycle over and over again. I mean come on, bad guys are like sour milk in the fridge, just because you go back to taste it everyday, doesn't mean it will taste any better. In fact, most men become worse after they get married.
"Bad things don't happen to you because you have bad luck. Bad things happen to you because you're a dumb ass!"
I know because I've been there, though it is true that I may never truly know how you feel. Looking at it objectively, If me going thru my personal trials and tribulations means I know how you feel. I suppose when my dick swells, I would know how it feels like to have a clit.
Its not how you feel or what happened. Giving yourself excuses to justify yourself is meaningless. Its how you deal with it which eventually matters the most. The question here is: how many times its gona take for you to be the dumbass, before you learn your lesson.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Foreign workers are human beings TOO
I read with utter digust and how much prejudice Singaporeans have towards foreigners who are less well-off and are here to work as labourers to support their family back home.
Foreign Workers are not the Criminal Class, nor are Poor People the Criminal Class. Michael McCrea, A British Financial Advisor killed his driver and the driver's girlfriend in 2002. Lets not forget about the American teen, Michael Fay who was caned for multiple acts of vandalism in 1994. What about Strait's Times reporting about the army regular who was charged recently for molesting a young girl at a bus stop? Perhaps we should be wary of the British, Americans and Army Regulars too and bar them from living in Serangoon Gardens.
From what I picked up online and verified at the Singapore Police Force Website,
"The number of foreigners arrested for crime decreased from 3,036 to 2,758 persons in 2006. They accounted for about 14% of the total persons arrested, same as in 2005″.
I am not able to get any current statistics from the Singapore Police Force website. But statistics for 2006 seems to suggest, since 86% of the crime in Singapore are commited by Singaporeans, locals are the ones commiting most of the crime in Singapore. So perhaps I should be more wary of my fellow Singaporeans instead of foreign workers? Since I'm more likely to be a victim of a crime perpetrated by a Singaporean, or perhaps the foreign workers should be more afraid of Singaporeans?
Majority of Foreign Workers are law abiding people,. granted I understand that some of the foreign workers' public behavior are considered socially unacceptable in Singapore. Perhaps foreign labourers should be given a course in proper etiquette when they arrive in Singapore, which will be sponsored by the government.
I somehow connect this negative view towards foreign workers with the astounding rise in Maid Abuse cases in Singapore. In Febuary 2008, a husband, his mother and wife were charged for maid abuse.In March 2008, another family was hauled into court for maid abuse. In July 2008, there 3 cases of maid abuse being heard in court.
What about the Chinese National who got bashed for talking too loudly on the bus in May 2008? What surprised me were the views that some Singaporean netizens have: The PRC national got what he deserved, was some sentiments I've seen on a regular basis.
Let me assure you that if you take a bus around any school during the times the students get off from school, let me assure you: the school children sometimes make enough noise to make my ears ring. So perhaps the school children deserve to get bashed too? Or do the rules change for locals and foreign workers?
Foreign Workers are human beings too, they are not any less human as we are, despite the fact they may come from poorer countries to make a living here. I cannot help to feel that Singaporeans have a poor view of them due to their social status.
I quote Former Chief Justice Yong Pung How in 2001, when he sentenced a Singaporean Couple to serve consecutive jail terms for maid abuse:
"A maid sells her services, she does not sell her person. An employer should not exploit his maid's dependence on him for food and lodging, for these are basic rights," he said in a written judgment.
"A maid's abased social status does not mean that she is any less of a human being and any less protected by the law," Yong said.
Martin Luthor King Jr said: "I want to be the white man's brother, not his brother-in-law."
Foreign Workers and Domestic Helpers are here to stay, a necessary part of our society, as they help contribute to our society by doing their jobs.
It is a sad indeed when you realize that despite our economic progress we enjoy living in a developed country like Singapore; my fellow Singaporeans still discriminate against people because of their social status, have problems viewing them as human beings, and needs the law to remind us that Foreign Workers are Human Beings TOO..
Foreign Workers are not the Criminal Class, nor are Poor People the Criminal Class. Michael McCrea, A British Financial Advisor killed his driver and the driver's girlfriend in 2002. Lets not forget about the American teen, Michael Fay who was caned for multiple acts of vandalism in 1994. What about Strait's Times reporting about the army regular who was charged recently for molesting a young girl at a bus stop? Perhaps we should be wary of the British, Americans and Army Regulars too and bar them from living in Serangoon Gardens.
From what I picked up online and verified at the Singapore Police Force Website,
"The number of foreigners arrested for crime decreased from 3,036 to 2,758 persons in 2006. They accounted for about 14% of the total persons arrested, same as in 2005″.
I am not able to get any current statistics from the Singapore Police Force website. But statistics for 2006 seems to suggest, since 86% of the crime in Singapore are commited by Singaporeans, locals are the ones commiting most of the crime in Singapore. So perhaps I should be more wary of my fellow Singaporeans instead of foreign workers? Since I'm more likely to be a victim of a crime perpetrated by a Singaporean, or perhaps the foreign workers should be more afraid of Singaporeans?
Majority of Foreign Workers are law abiding people,. granted I understand that some of the foreign workers' public behavior are considered socially unacceptable in Singapore. Perhaps foreign labourers should be given a course in proper etiquette when they arrive in Singapore, which will be sponsored by the government.
I somehow connect this negative view towards foreign workers with the astounding rise in Maid Abuse cases in Singapore. In Febuary 2008, a husband, his mother and wife were charged for maid abuse.In March 2008, another family was hauled into court for maid abuse. In July 2008, there 3 cases of maid abuse being heard in court.
What about the Chinese National who got bashed for talking too loudly on the bus in May 2008? What surprised me were the views that some Singaporean netizens have: The PRC national got what he deserved, was some sentiments I've seen on a regular basis.
Let me assure you that if you take a bus around any school during the times the students get off from school, let me assure you: the school children sometimes make enough noise to make my ears ring. So perhaps the school children deserve to get bashed too? Or do the rules change for locals and foreign workers?
Foreign Workers are human beings too, they are not any less human as we are, despite the fact they may come from poorer countries to make a living here. I cannot help to feel that Singaporeans have a poor view of them due to their social status.
I quote Former Chief Justice Yong Pung How in 2001, when he sentenced a Singaporean Couple to serve consecutive jail terms for maid abuse:
"A maid sells her services, she does not sell her person. An employer should not exploit his maid's dependence on him for food and lodging, for these are basic rights," he said in a written judgment.
"A maid's abased social status does not mean that she is any less of a human being and any less protected by the law," Yong said.
Martin Luthor King Jr said: "I want to be the white man's brother, not his brother-in-law."
Foreign Workers and Domestic Helpers are here to stay, a necessary part of our society, as they help contribute to our society by doing their jobs.
It is a sad indeed when you realize that despite our economic progress we enjoy living in a developed country like Singapore; my fellow Singaporeans still discriminate against people because of their social status, have problems viewing them as human beings, and needs the law to remind us that Foreign Workers are Human Beings TOO..
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